Breaking Free from Self-Destruction
You may have heard of the term self-destruction before, but do you know what it means? Self-destruction can take on many forms like negative self-talk, self-sabotage, harmful habits, and toxic relationships. At times, it may be easier to give in to these destructive tendencies. I am guilty of this, it was just easier. That is the way I saw everyone else in my life behave so I repeated the cycle. After years of denial, I finally listened to my soul. A tiny cry for help, deep down I always knew the truth. The truth is I wanted to be loved and no one did, so I thought I wasn't good enough. That began years of self-destruction.
How does one break the cycle of self-destruction? It is accepting that you are hurting yourself and that you can change that if you really want to. When I finally looked in the mirror, I couldn't keep lying to myself anymore. I was unhappy with my choices and everything I allowed in my life. I decided right then and there I was going to make a change in my life. You need to be honest with yourself, no sugarcoating.
Maybe you are struggling with self-destruction. You may feel so bad on the inside that you choose to numb the pain with more pain. No judgment here, trust me. Whether you're drinking your pain away or putting yourself in dangerous situations, hurting yourself is never okay.
Please know you are not alone, please seek help if you need it. There are so many people out there who feel the same if you put yourself out there. There are ways to prevent these behaviors and stop self-sabotage whatever that means to you.
Motivation
Motivation is the key to the transformation you desire. Visualize what it is you want to be your end goal? What do you desire most? Maybe it's to be wealthy, successful, or happy. You can make it happen! The only thing stopping you is yourself. Motivation can be the fuel to fire this dream of yours. It's the spark that ignites within us, pushing us forward to our dreams and goals. But where does this motivation come from?
Breaking free from self-destruction requires a lot of patience, with yourself. Summoning the courage to break free demands self-love. You need more respect for yourself. You are your worst enemy. However, if you want to change there is a way. Are you done feeling like crap every day? Had enough of being unhappy with your lifestyle?
Let that be the fuel, the motivation. Stop doing the same old stuff, try something new! If you ever want to change your life, you must do it yourself. No one can save you from the depths of your own hell you have created. Some of us have souls that are crying for change, yearning for better days.
If you need some help getting motivated, I suggest you follow some motivational pages on social media. Mindfully consume social media by looking at beneficial content that sparks ideas in your head. Put sticky notes everywhere reminding yourself of what your goals are. I used to put pink sticky notes on my mirror saying "You will be financially stable" or "You are Beautiful inside and out!". Putting stuff right in your face that enforces that message again is powerful.
Another thing I created to help myself is a jar of messages I wrote to encourage myself. I call it my daily messages, they help me get through every day. I carry my little folded-up paper with me and read it to myself when I need a little motivation. Your messages can be anything you want. Anything you think would make you happy to see.
Self-Love
To get rid of self-destruction, you must begin self-love. Self-love defeats self-destruction. When you love yourself truly, you no longer allow harmful things or people in your life. It is kryptonite to anything like self-sabotage, toxic relationships, or negativity.
Self-love is the greatest gift you can give to yourself. It is the best thing for you to do for the world around you also. Taking care of yourself allows yourself to make good decisions that benefit you. Instead of being a people-pleaser, please yourself. Make yourself happy!
If you want to learn more about how to practice self-love I have an article here for it.
Healing
In order to battle those self-destructive tendencies, we must also heal. Why are you so hard on yourself? Was someone else like this towards you? Ask yourself questions like these to get to the root of the problem. A lot of people's problems root in childhood experiences.
Your childhood has shaped you into the adult you are today. The experiences you had still have an impact on you today whether you realize it or not. If you had a great childhood and are struggling with some more recent things, that is also valid. Your feelings are always valid. No matter what the cause is, dig deeper into that dark hole. The empty void you can't escape no matter what you fill it with.
The key is to let yourself feel it, feel everything that comes with it. Recogize those emotions, cry if you need to. Let it out, let it go. Let go of anything holding you down. The past can not hurt you anymore, only if you allow it to can it hurt you. Sometimes we are too afraid of what lies beneath the surface. What ugliness we hide behind our smiling faces. That pain, needs to be handled. You can live a happier life if you chose to dig deep into your worst nightmares and fears.
It won't be easy at first, everything flooding in at once. Take your time, take small steps. Try new methods of coping with things. Research things like meditation, breath work, and self-care.
Conclusion
Self-destruction can be ugly and harmful. Don't let yourself continue this cycle anymore. I dare you to challenge yourself. Set goals for yourself and be consistent. I want you to be happy, I really do. However, no one can make you happy, besides yourself.
That is why it is so important to control these self-destructive habits now. You are in control of your life! No one else can save you, you must save yourself. It is detrimental that you are more patient with yourself and love yourself more. Once you do that, everything else will fall into place..
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